I first want to say how much I love my family. I have a great husband and two beautiful boys. But sometimes being a mom is very challenging. First I am an actor. And since I have a six week old boy, my career needs to be put on the back burner. I know there are some moms that have two or three at home with them. My oldest son goes to daycare. The biggest reason is he is a very spirited boy who needs constant attention. He goes from one thing to the next and at school he is much happier than he is at home. For those out there that say being a mom isn’t a job, I just want to quickly write while my newborn is taking one of his cat naps what my “typical” day looks like. I am exclusively pumping because my son could not latch on and I was so tired of being in pain. And yes I went to multiple lactation consultants who would tell me how great my latch was while I was holding back tears of pain. Plus he would not feed well off it either, so I now just pump, which makes my day even more stressful.
6:30 am, pump before my oldest wakes up.
6:50 am, wake up my son who immediately needs to be fed and drink something. While getting my newborn up, change his outfit and diaper and feed him, while my oldest crawls all over me.
Ohhh my newborn spit all over himself, change his outfit again. Now my other is all finished with his breakfast and its time to change him for the day. This takes forever since he wants to run around and fight on changing clothes. So I have to say ” do you want to go to school?”, which he does, so I say, “well we have to change our clothes.” He then fight me on what shoes to wear, and he finally makes a choice. We are dressed.
7:30 My newborn is hungry again because he cluster feeds in the morning because he sleeps amazing at night. I change his diaper again and feed him again. Then, I get my oldest to get his teeth brushed and we read a book and play with the baby. Now my oldest spilled water on the baby…where did that cup come from? URRR now I have to change my newborn a third time!
8:00 I finally get dressed. I look like hell and my hair is all greasy.
8:15 We are out the door, the kiddos are in the car to take my oldest to school. He loves it there and is very happy to say bye to me.
8:40, My husband is wanting to eat healthier and I want to lose my last ten pounds of pregnancy weight so I start prepping for salad for dinner tonight. DAMNIT the dishwasher needs to be unloaded. So I unload that and re load it. My husband forgot to get the chicken out of the freezer. SOOO its frozen. I put the chicken in the pressure cooker and also make dressing and hard boil eggs.
While the chicken is cooking I feed the newborn again. Chicken is done and still not fully cooked because it was frozen. While carrying the newborn I cut the chicken up and sautee it. Chickens done and hard boiled eggs are done. They go in the fridge for tonight. Now my husband use to do my oldest laundry, but magically it isn’t done anymore, so I do both children’s laundry.
10:00 time to pump again….after that is done, my son is screaming and wants to eat again. Mind you I have yet to eat anything but oatmeal at this point and am starved.
Laundry is dried and now time to fold. Newborn is super cranky. Walking around and calming him down.
10:40 he is swaddled and put down for a cat nap. he cat naps all day.
I clean around and clean the kitchen. which has 2 pots that need scrubbing.
At some point all the bottles and pump accessories need to be sanitized. Time to do that.
11:20, eat quick before newborn wakes up.
11:30, newborn is up, change him and feed him and play tummy time with him.
12:00 need to pump again.
Now while he is happy I try to do a little mini workout of squats and core exercise while he lays near me.
1:00 Feed newborn again…..yes he eats this often. Always hungry.
Time to do my laundry, and all the towels. After that newborn is cranky and needs to be carried and walk around. We head downstairs to feed the cat and brush her.
2:00ish laundry is done. throw that in room to do later. I eat a snack and try to do a quick pump before picking up oldest boy at daycare.
3:00 pick up oldest. Come home newborn is fed again, clean all the pump accessories again and give oldest a a drink and snack.
Play with baby and oldest.
4:00 daddys home. Hand kid off so I can go pump again.
This is just one day for me. I know every mom is different. Everyone’s life is different, some days are easier than others. This was a rough day for me because I barely had time to eat and felt strung out all day. So anyone that says it isn’t work. I say, walk in my shoes for a day. I am way more tired than I have ever been!